I've read them. I feel like I've read them all-the letters from well-meaning, well-written peers of mine. Posts penned by young (well, relatively young) people unhappy with and enlightened by the woes of the Church. And they all know the various reasons why people are leaving the Church, the problems they see and the ways to fix said problems.
The ladies ministry is too old-fashioned, and yet the worship is too flashy and fake. The pastor doesn't use enough technology, and yet he's trying too hard to be relevant and contemporary. The Church is too inwardly focused, yet not focused enough on your needs. It all makes my head and heart hurt.
If I can glean anything from these open letters, it's this-- maybe people (my people, Millennials) are leaving the Church because we are spoiled, selfish, uneasily satisfied, hypercritical, consumeristic and socially enlightened but biblically light-weight.
Now if it's not already clear, I love the Church. I'm crazy, obsessed and slightly obnoxiously in love with the Church and her leaders. I'm not objective. I'm not impartial. Stop reading if you need to, at least I've owned it.
So when you choose to air your grievances against her in the name of edification, I don't probably give you the benefit of the doubt you deserve. I'll admit that much. But let me explain why it wounds so.